07 Jun The Unveiling
I knew it was only a matter of time.
AW Tozer said, “Time and withness produce revelation.”
Things about us not readily seen by casual acquaintance, in time, are revealed through togetherness.
Like in a marriage, the day will come when something about us previously unseen will be revealed, and usually it is not good.
As people with feet of clay, at some point they will give way.
The masks we wear, including those we are not cognizant of, will eventually fall away unveiling our weaknesses—warts and all.
One of our greatest fears is being found out and our pride blinds us to the truth of what we really are; broken people in process.
Many of us agree that there is a crisis of leadership in Christian radio. That may be true, but the leadership crisis begins with me.
This is not about me, but if I may, would you allow me to use myself as an example that is about everyone of us?
Just when I was beginning to believe what some people were saying about my leadership abilities, reality snapped me back to my senses.
A chink in my armor had been breached. A leadership weakness had been unveiled. It is not important what it is, but suffice it to say, my pride would not allow me to recognize it. It was not a matter of consciously trying to cover it up. It was simply blind pride keeping me from seeing it. And when confronted, my prideful, self-defense sin mechanism went into full force revealing the “dark side” that dwells in each of us. This was hurtful to others.
When I allow pride to rule, heaven resists. And it ain’t pretty.
Okay, so what is my point in sharing this? To let you know how truly grateful I am for the pain and shame of this discovery.
The unveiling of my leadership weaknesses can only aid me in developing the leadership muscles required for whatever lays ahead. Preparation for more ministry. A press toward greater heights.
Yes, it is painful. Certainly it is humiliating. It is like peeling off layers of an onion; the closer you get to the center the fumes intensify, and so do the tears. But I refuse to settle in the darkness.
I have been learning that when I am criticized or confronted for a failing, and the “fight or flight” emotions kick in and I start defending myself; there are things that need to be dealt with. I need to confront this relationship killer in me. Nothing like a little confrontation to bring the dross to the surface. Trouble is no one on either side of the encounter likes it and so we begin to withdraw and devise ways of avoiding the anticipated future pain. This is one thing that destroys marriages, as-well-as other associations.
We all must refuse to build this stronghold and allow it to remain.
Many leaders in Christian ministry understand this. Yet there are countless others that need their weaknesses unveiled, too.
Hockey great Wayne Gretzky said, “I always skate to where the puck is going rather than to where it’s been.”
I pray for all my blind spots to be revealed. It does me no good for them to remain in the dark. If it means that I crash and burn, so be it. At least I’ll be able to see the road ahead with greater clarity, focus, and determination.
As Christian leaders, we need to be praying for “unveiling” and that the light of love reveal our weaknesses. May you be encouraged with Paul’s reminder of Christ’s assurance, “My power is made perfect in weakness.” 2 Corinthians 12:9 (ESV)
And may each of us rise to the call of letting go so that we will be used to inspire the next generation of Christian media leaders.
Dear Christian Radio –
- It’s only a matter of time when we’ll be found out.
- Criticism and conflict demands we face the “relationship killers” in us.
- When your weaknesses are unveiled, though painful and embarrassing, be grateful for the open door that leads to power.
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